Debbie Lynn for TTB

By Debbie Lynn

It takes a certain amount of living before we are able to find our voice.

What I mean by “our voice” is: teetering on our edge of danger and controversy, mentally and physically, because “safe” just doesn’t have the tools to teach us anything.

When we avoid adventurous thinking (and/or doing) out of unfounded fears, we kill possibility before an experience has a chance to evolve. I have seen this over and over, especially with woman who are longing to be heard.

How can we—you and I—find the mysteries of our heart, when we are too scared to uncover the sacred text we all own? It all starts with these questions: how far out on a limb are we willing to climb and how much work we are willing to do?

But getting out from under the safety net is not easy. 

The process of trust is huge, and for so many of us who have been screwed in too tightly—the unwinding is a laborious endeavor.

The first thing we need to know is: “being good” doesn’t mean staying confined to the so-called rules of our make-believe society; those rules screw us up more than anything. This doesn’t mean we give up on morality or kindness; it means we learn to walk outside the proverbial straight lines and question authority. When we do, we will always bring on a bit of controversy.

Controversy equals experience: this is where we learn to walk our talk.

 Testing the waters.

If we tiptoe around the things that make us uncomfortable—if we barely dance while the music is raging inside—we are, in essence, committing ourselves to a lesser experience. More often than not, our reticence is based on what others will think of us, how we will be judged and measured—so passive habits interfere with what the soul longs to do, which is dance until our feet bleed no matter what.

 Sometimes our narrative just needs to have a different voice. 

We need to engage with life and actively search for inspiration to get up, get out of our head and go for life—not a half-assed inclination of what it could be, but truly taking a moment to jump in with both feet and soak up the liquid experiences, the ones dripping with all kinds of beautiful pearls of wisdom and exposing our innate wonder lust of life.

We have to take a stand against archaic thinking and unfold it, draw a new line in the sand and watch the tide wash it away, because holding on to the sounds of unfounded fear and made-up consequences rips the very fabric of our understanding apart. We can’t know what we have not yet been involved with.  Participation is key.

I think the biggest hurdle is saying, “yes” to life. When we say, “no, I can’t” it blocks us, and doesn’t us serve at all. So when we break it all down, very few of the things we imagined would happen if we stepped out of our comfort zone will actually hurt us. Get to your edge; it is a space where we discover just how far we can go, how unlimited that place actually is, and we can really see that what we thought was large and unreachable was a lie. 

It is always, always much smaller, perhaps even easier than we had imagined. 

We can do and be anything at anytime—period.

Forget the safe haven.

Try this—I promise you won’t be disappointed.

Go where the signs say no trespassing. Read things that make your thighs tingle and your head swim. Learn about words you don’t understand. Take a chance on your intuition and follow the route that your heart so desperately longs to follow. Introduce yourself to a stranger eye-to-eye, soul-to-soul.

Turn off the noise of insecurity; write down your deepest thoughts on paper as if it was a sacred manual. Immerse your mind, body and soul in a walk, but go somewhere completely different—where you get lost in the unknown. Make some noise in your habits and routine, change it up, change it down, blow it wide open so something new has space to enter.

Stop trying to be a goody-goody. Get good and sassy and get your edge on.

The more chances we take with trust, the easier it is to experience the world. It is mind-boggling how much is just outside our door, and if you really stop to think about it, it will enhance your daily life threefold.

Welcome to the cosmic dance: walk on the edge, sing when you want to and let the little diamonds of chance enter your domain.

Life will never wait for us, it goes on with or without our participation, so join it: be random, be wild, be real—it’s sexy.


Debbie LynnDebbie Lynn realized at a very young age that the outer reality was a far cry from her inner truth and meeting her inner wisdom head on always turned into a challenge. The wonderment, curiosity and hypocrisy of life led to exploration and a cumulative documentation (art and journaling) of what she lovingly calls “the purge”. It is her way of ridding any negative energy from the daily grind. She says, “In essence, it is a way to start fresh and cleanse the soul.” Debbie has had numerous articles published with elephant journal, The Edge Magazine and Simple Steps Real Life Magazine. Her daily posts can be found on Facebook.


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Editor: Bronwyn Petry