By Debbie Lynn
Great strides in healing are made when we decide the energy spent in resentment, blame and anger just doesn’t make sense to us anymore.
This realization lifts a ton of toxicity off our back as we stop trying to rationalize the irrational. Once here (in this view) we can step back and set some real attainable inner aspirations.
But to do this, it is so important to understand the flavor of our intentions (getting to know them personally). The intricacies of our mind (the pre-conditioned patterns) are so very interlaced with our feelings that they end up attaching, co-creating, and influencing what is in our heart and soul of intent. Our intentions are a very powerful and amazing energy and they are: our everything.
This energy trickles outward into and onto all we do and encounter daily.
We are the influencers of the wave, the mystic connection of one moment to the next and we are responsible for this motion. We, (yes, you and I) have huge effects on our interior and exterior world so we must be accountable (at all times) with our thoughts, our words and actions. Never for one minute discount the power of our intention; it truly supersedes it all but a few things have to be put in place as we go.
Breaking free from the intended role of the victim
As the victim, we stay small and we stay in unhealthy shame as we beat our head against the wall for clarity. Even when we believe our intent is in the perfect place, if we are still clinging to blame, we muddy up the energy and override the purity. It is also important to know that the answers we seek can elude us for a myriad of reasons when we maintain an unresolved status.
1) We are not ready
The emotional strain of the truth may be too much to bear right now (it is an overwhelming to process) so we have to allow our inner understanding to catch up with the pain. As we sit somewhere in-between the two (knowledge and suffering) what we find is grace. But there is no guarantee it will happen in the time frame we want, it is not productive punish your self.
Sometimes we need to re-group, refocus, re-boot so to speak. Cede to the unknowable and put our intentions into surrender.
2) Our perception of the past has been tainted and dramatized by our memory and surroundings
In the distortion (the drama), things are always blown out of proportion. Not to minimize trauma, but there comes a time when we have to give our self a hug and say, “We have come this far, perhaps we don’t need to backtrack anymore.” This is where contentment and peace give us greater visibility in a foggy situation. If we want things to get better, we have to stop breathing life into the past and let it die.
3) Assigning cause (blame on others) for our past is sidestepping a great opportunity for accountability and growth
In this modality, we stay exactly where we are (imprisoned in a time come-and-gone) instead of a solution for betterment in our current moment. Change can’t change until we commit to changing our self. When we put thought into this, then act on it with our highest intentions—transformation happens quickly.
We can’t dismiss where we come from because everything from birth to now is highly important—repeat highly important. So being acquainted and embracing our past with an intention of betterment shapes our path and future. We must use the “wrongs” as examples to make things right. Accept them, (not excuse them) and learn from them.
It is far better to leave the justifications in the hands of the universe and trust we have spent enough time in turmoil. Trust we are ready to make peace with the past and happily move on. Trust we know all we need to know and we are home. One day we find (as we surrender pain for indifference) that when an ugly memory is sparked, the emotions that used to accompany it are null and void. We realize we are detached but very much alive aware and now. We are free to let it go with full meaning.
It is pretty simple math—intentions to rise and heal begin here.
Release the blame; it releases you.
Debbie Lynn realized at a very young age that the outer reality was a far cry from her inner truth and meeting her inner wisdom head on always turned into a challenge. The wonderment, curiosity and hypocrisy of life led to exploration and a cumulative documentation (art and journaling) of what she lovingly calls “the purge”. It is her way of ridding any negative energy from the daily grind. She says, “In essence, it is a way to start fresh and cleanse the soul.” Debbie has had numerous articles published with elephant journal, The Edge Magazine and Simple Steps Real Life Magazine. Her daily posts can be found on Facebook.
Editor: Dana Gornall
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