Category: Relationships

Showing Kindness Even When You Don’t Agree (& Don’t Feel Like Being Kind)

  By Daniel Scharpenburg I want to talk about a thing that happens a lot in life. We see people and we don’t meet them with kindness, with an open heart. We sometimes reserve our Bodhisattva intention. But that’s not what we’re supposed to be doing, and we come up with all sorts of excuses for this. “She brought this upon herself.” “He is wrong about this issue that is important to me.” “She has this irritating trait.” “He just didn’t try as hard in life as me.” Or “That person is just too different from me. They aren’t part...

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Dharma & the Dating Mom: After Divorce {Part 1}

  By Dana Gornall I was just shy of 19 years old when I met my husband. I married fairly young—naive and still unsure of who I was, I grew into myself throughout that marriage, but unfortunately, we didn’t grow alongside of each other; so after almost 20 years, we went separate ways. It was good to be on my own. I had my kids with me after the separation, but being alone and single felt right. I needed that time to figure out who I was, where I belonged and what I wanted. People suggested I go out....

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Gratitude, Even After Food Poisoning

  By Michael Grey This weekend, I jumped into bed early, tired, feeling gross. Sooner than later, the tiredness did not diminish, but the grossness accelerated. No need to go into specifics, but needless to say, I slept little that night, and it felt like everything left my body. I remember when I was a kid I would often puke and feel great afterwards, an endorphin rush I presume. This did not occur. Not even close and I could keep nothing down to assist in the trouble. Eventually my wife found an old Zofran and I dissolved it under my...

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The Power of Grief & How it Changes Us

  By Carmelene Melanie Siani   “I have to get out of here,” my friend Sarah said in a rush, “I can’t watch this.” Sarah’s mother had recently died of cancer and the movie we were watching—without either of us knowing beforehand—contained a scene in which a woman was losing her mother to cancer. “Sorry,” Sarah was later saying over coffee.  “I felt suffocated. I just couldn’t stand watching what was happening.” Sarah was experiencing what is all too familiar to many of us— a wave of grief. *** “Why did you do that?” the widower who was soon...

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How to Love without Fear? You Fake it till You Make It, Man.

  By Lee Glazier   So, I was enjoying an herbal meditation session the other day, and something awesome happened: I fell in love. Not with a person or any tangible thing, but I literally fell in love, like diving into the Pacific. Just then, my cat ventured into the room. I was so thrilled to see her. I picked her up and hugged her close. For a few breaths, she was my universe. Even though I’m a Dudeist, I don’t imbibe very often. Herbal meditation is almost, ya know, sacred to me. So when I do do it,...

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