Category: Relationships

She Persisted, & So Will I.

By Deb Avery “She was warned. She was given an explanation. Nevertheless, she persisted.” These words have been repeated throughout history in one form or another for thousands of years. To the present day, women are still told to shut up and sit down. Still, we continue to speak up for our rights and the rights of others. It begins early in childhood and continues throughout our lives. It happens in our work place, our churches and even our own homes. Each and every day there are millions of women the world over who live with verbal, emotional and physical...

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The One Thing That Creates Unhappiness, Relationship Problems & Frustration

  By Leo Babauta   There’s a hidden mechanism that creates unhappiness, difficulty changing habits, relationship problems, frustration, anger and disappointment. Barely anyone is aware of this hidden mechanism, even though it’s happening all the time, in all of us. It’s the stories we tell ourselves. We do it all day long: we tell ourselves a story about what’s happening in our lives, about other people, about ourselves. When I call them “stories”  I don’t mean they’re false or that they aren’t based on the truth. It just means we’ve constructed a narrative based on our experiences, a perspective on the...

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If I’m So Zen, Why do I Still Get Frustrated? A Guide to Getting Over It.

  By Leo Babauta Pretty much all of us experience frustration on a daily (or even hourly) basis. We get frustrated by other people, by ourselves, by technology, by work situations, by small crises that come up all the time. You know you’re frustrated when you find yourself sighing, or complaining about people, or fuming about something that happened, or going over why you’re right and they’re wrong. Frustration is normal, but holding on to frustration is not so fun. It’s not even helpful: if the situation isn’t great, adding frustration on top of it just makes it worse. Often...

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Using Shame as a Weapon.

  By Debbie Lynn The “Rights,” the “Lefts” and the ones who fall in-between are fighting. The words: shame on you, fills social media The tweets, posts and a lot of commentary aimed at the jugular to be vindicated after an attack on someone’s opinion is running rabid. The current climate is sticky. The air is heavy and laden with doubt, fear and anxiety. Sensationalism sells. *big sigh* One person will say, “I am so tired of being shamed,” as they rant and shame another for being shameful. The irony is almost laughable. Almost. But the soapbox, self-proclaimed victims or...

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I Didn’t Care What She was the Goddess of, She Had Touched Me

    By Carmelene Melanie Siani My husband and I recently moved to a new city and within a few nights I awoke missing something that I’d had to leave behind. 25 years before, I was at a garage sale with the man I was then married to and had found her there. “Quan Yin’s’ her name,” the garage sale guy said. “She’s the Goddess of Compassion.” I didn’t care what she was the Goddess of, I knew I wanted her. She had touched me. She was carved of wood—maybe iron wood, we couldn’t tell. Her eyes were closed in meditation...

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