Category: Relationships

Dharma & the Dating Mom: I Need Space but I Don’t

  By Dana Gornall “Desiring another person is perhaps the most risky endeavor of all. As soon as you want somebody—really want him—it is as though you have taken a surgical needle and sutured your happiness to the skin of that person, so that any separation will now cause a lacerating injury.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed When I was about four or five—maybe six—we took a family vacation to Florida. The specifics are still a little fuzzy, but I remember clearly seeing some type of a luau, or Hawaiian show. Seated about six rows back from the stage, I...

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Dharma & the Dating Mom: Actually Dating {Part 2}

  By Dana Gornall There is something comforting about communicating in writing—especially in digital format. For me, writing as a form of expression has always been a better way because I could take my time with my thoughts. For some reason everything in my brain seemed to flow so much smoother when I had the chance to write it out rather than talk about it. In this texting and social media age, not only do we have the opportunity to gather our thoughts in writing, but we have the immediate gratification of being able to get a response or...

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Showing Kindness Even When You Don’t Agree (& Don’t Feel Like Being Kind)

  By Daniel Scharpenburg I want to talk about a thing that happens a lot in life. We see people and we don’t meet them with kindness, with an open heart. We sometimes reserve our Bodhisattva intention. But that’s not what we’re supposed to be doing, and we come up with all sorts of excuses for this. “She brought this upon herself.” “He is wrong about this issue that is important to me.” “She has this irritating trait.” “He just didn’t try as hard in life as me.” Or “That person is just too different from me. They aren’t part...

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Dharma & the Dating Mom: After Divorce {Part 1}

  By Dana Gornall I was just shy of 19 years old when I met my husband. I married fairly young—naive and still unsure of who I was, I grew into myself throughout that marriage, but unfortunately, we didn’t grow alongside of each other; so after almost 20 years, we went separate ways. It was good to be on my own. I had my kids with me after the separation, but being alone and single felt right. I needed that time to figure out who I was, where I belonged and what I wanted. People suggested I go out....

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Gratitude, Even After Food Poisoning

  By Michael Grey This weekend, I jumped into bed early, tired, feeling gross. Sooner than later, the tiredness did not diminish, but the grossness accelerated. No need to go into specifics, but needless to say, I slept little that night, and it felt like everything left my body. I remember when I was a kid I would often puke and feel great afterwards, an endorphin rush I presume. This did not occur. Not even close and I could keep nothing down to assist in the trouble. Eventually my wife found an old Zofran and I dissolved it under my...

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