Category: Family & Parenting

Resolving to be More Mindful

  By Tanya Tiger Welcome to 2018. Here’s to putting the past behind us and moving forward. The new year gives me a solid place to stop and take a moment to reflect on where I’ve been and where I am going, or want to go, in the coming year. I don’t really do resolutions anymore. I used to set weight loss or fitness goals and set up timelines for new projects, but I discovered that I’m a bit of a rebel and locking myself into strict commitments right off the bat never seemed to work out for me....

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A Dharma Guide to Staying Sober for the Holidays

  By Tyler Lewke Next to my place is a market filled with overpriced things like almond milk. And hummus. And Wine. It’s the kind of place you go in a hurry when you run out at the last moment. I shop here almost exclusively. At the checkout, just after getting home from a particularly tricky family holiday gathering, I discover a display with a new wine for this holiday season, named Family Time Is Hard. I was immediately hit with familiar mix of jealousy and rage. How do those of us trying to remain awake and unaltered and sober...

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An Ordinary Man, a Broken Key & a Snowstorm: A Zen Christmas Story

  By Louis De Lauro So an ordinary man was teaching a juggling class at a community center in central New Jersey. It was a few days before Christmas. Most of his students were Jewish and Chinese-American. When the kind man said goodnight to his class he wished everyone, “Merry Holidays!” It was snowing pretty hard that night at 7:30 pm and the man couldn’t wait to get home. He walked to his car—wait, make that his wife’s car that he borrowed for the day—and the tired man (a talented juggler) clumsily dropped the key on the cement. The...

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Thoughts on Christmas from a Grumpy Buddhist

  By Gerald “Strib” Stribling I don’t like Christmas, never did like Christmas. My kids used to get me drunk to get me to help put up the Christmas tree. When I was young, Christmas used to make me feel lonely, and after I got married in 1972, Christmas was full of relatives. I couldn’t get away from them. Lots and lots of relatives—mostly relatives by marriage. My parents and sister and I, in the olden time, were a tight little group. Presents were purchased at the PX wherever dad was stationed, unless he was in Korea or Vietnam....

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Navigating Grief During the Holiday Season

  By Dr. BethAnne Kapansky Wright   For some of us, the holiday season comes wrapped with ribbons of grief. We are the ones who’ve known some kind of loss, whose magnitude is powerful enough that the ripple effects become extra potent on a time focused on celebration. And as such the experience of grief becomes part and parcel to navigating a month tinged with family, friends, and festivity. This will be my second December without my brother and having just waded through the waters of Thanksgiving, I find myself staring at December with a mixed heart. I have a...

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