Category: Buddhism

How to Deal with Annoying People (Mindfully)

By Leo Babauta It’s a common thing to be frequently annoyed by other people. Added to our regular interactions with family, friends and coworkers are the online habits of people on various social media, and they can all irritate the hell out of us. What can we do when other people are being annoying, frustrating, inconsiderate, irritating, even aggravating? Well, assuming we’re not in real danger and we don’t need to take action to protect ourselves, often the best practice is an internal shift rather than trying to change the other person’s behavior. That suggestion in itself can be...

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Drive All Blames into One {Lojong Teaching}

  By Daniel Scharpenburg Drive all blames into one. The one we’re talking about here is ourselves. We want to stop blaming everyone around us for our problems. It’s an easy thing to do—to blame others for everything that happens. As a dad I see a lot of situations where one of my kids is aggressive or mean to the other and says, “It’s not my fault, they were being annoying!” And of course that’s silly. We can throw blame around and agonize over how other people are causing us to behave, or we can stand up and take...

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Post Buddhism: Where Do I Go From Here?

  By John Lee Pendall Out of every view I’ve ever heard—from Adam and Eve to the earth is flat—the hardest one for me to swallow was, “Everything’s okay.” My gut response is to shoot back, “Everything is definitely not okay.” But then, I reply to myself, “It’s okay to feel that way.” That shuts me up, which is an astonishingly difficult thing to do. At this point in my life, I’m kind of an After Buddhist—a member of that cohort who rode the Vehicles all over the map and then crashed them into a porta potty. Crawling from...

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Transform Mishaps into the Path {Lojong Teaching}

  By Daniel Scharpenburg Obviously it’s normal to want to avoid difficulty whenever we can. The problem is that we can’t avoid all of the challenges life will throw at us. In fact, a lot of the time pretending that we can avoid the challenges of life brings difficulty and extra suffering to us. Facing difficulty and accepting that life is hard is a better thing for us to do. This is associated with the cultivation of patience, our ability to weather the storms of life. It’s hard to think in this way, but difficult people give us the...

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Getting Back on the Cushion…and the Wagon

  By Tyler Lewke In times of desperation, I’ve climbed the steps to temples and churches, therapist’s offices and 12 step groups, wisdom circles and countless spaces seeking peace from the struggles and the happiness I thought was promised. I show up hungry for stillness—peace—seeking refuge from life’s torrents. With pain as fuel, I keep coming back, again and again. Like drinking from a well until finally my thirst is quenched. The spiritual lessons I’ve gained within the confines of these holy spaces give me the courage to go back out into the world. I walk slowly at first—peek...

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