Author: Dana Gornall

Single Mama Buddhist: Can We be Clergy?

  By Dana Gornall   “I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan. And never let you forget you’re a man because I’m a wooommman, Enjoli.” These were the lyrics played on a popular early 80s commercial I heard over and over while I was growing up. The woman in the commercial was beautiful, business-like, apparently could cook a mighty fine ass meal and insinuated she was a tiger in the bedroom. This was what we were supposed to be—what we are supposed to be as women. We can keep the house neat, cook healthy,...

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Dharma & the Dating Mom: Everything is Awkward

  By Dana Gornall One of the problems with settling down with one person at a young age is that everything is new and young during that time. Teenage intimacy means making out in the back seats of cars, holding hands at the movies, and sneaking various forms of touchy-feelyness in various not so private places in whatever moments you can get them. You eventually grow up, get your own place and finally get a little privacy—at least until kids come along (if they do). Dating as a middle aged adult with teenagers, becomes a whole different ball game....

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Dharma & the Dating Mom: I Need Space but I Don’t

  By Dana Gornall “Desiring another person is perhaps the most risky endeavor of all. As soon as you want somebody—really want him—it is as though you have taken a surgical needle and sutured your happiness to the skin of that person, so that any separation will now cause a lacerating injury.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed When I was about four or five—maybe six—we took a family vacation to Florida. The specifics are still a little fuzzy, but I remember clearly seeing some type of a luau, or Hawaiian show. Seated about six rows back from the stage, I...

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Dharma & the Dating Mom: Actually Dating {Part 2}

  By Dana Gornall There is something comforting about communicating in writing—especially in digital format. For me, writing as a form of expression has always been a better way because I could take my time with my thoughts. For some reason everything in my brain seemed to flow so much smoother when I had the chance to write it out rather than talk about it. In this texting and social media age, not only do we have the opportunity to gather our thoughts in writing, but we have the immediate gratification of being able to get a response or...

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Dharma & the Dating Mom: After Divorce {Part 1}

  By Dana Gornall I was just shy of 19 years old when I met my husband. I married fairly young—naive and still unsure of who I was, I grew into myself throughout that marriage, but unfortunately, we didn’t grow alongside of each other; so after almost 20 years, we went separate ways. It was good to be on my own. I had my kids with me after the separation, but being alone and single felt right. I needed that time to figure out who I was, where I belonged and what I wanted. People suggested I go out....

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