Author: Carmelene Melanie Siani

Kindness Happens When Carrying A Magic Walking Stick

  By Carmelene Melanie Siani “Are you guys out of shopping carts?” I asked the cashier as I walked into the drug store. I had my walking stick with me but I was planning on buying several items and I knew I couldn’t manage all of them and my stick at the same time. “I’m sorry, ma’am,” the cashier said, obviously looking around for a cart. “Aren’t there any outside?” I told him not to worry, I would find one. He didn’t have to leave his place behind the cash register and so I turned to head out the...

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The Power of Grief & How it Changes Us

  By Carmelene Melanie Siani   “I have to get out of here,” my friend Sarah said in a rush, “I can’t watch this.” Sarah’s mother had recently died of cancer and the movie we were watching—without either of us knowing beforehand—contained a scene in which a woman was losing her mother to cancer. “Sorry,” Sarah was later saying over coffee.  “I felt suffocated. I just couldn’t stand watching what was happening.” Sarah was experiencing what is all too familiar to many of us— a wave of grief. *** “Why did you do that?” the widower who was soon...

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The Reason We Defend the Defenseless (Even When they are Hate Groups)

  By Carmelene Melanie Siani For a little over ten years, over two episodes of employment, I worked for a criminal defense attorney in Tucson. I came to him fresh from knowing all about criminal defense and what it was like. After all, like millions of other Americans, I had watched Perry Mason, hadn’t I? Of course, my young (arrogant) mind was opened when I realized that in fact, I didn’t know a thing about criminal defense—or what criminal defense attorneys actually did. I remember clearly the day soon after I’d gotten the job when I sat with my shorthand...

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The Magic Bird Kite & What Really Mattered

  By Carmelene Melanie Siani “Look!” David exclaimed. Up in the air in front of us was a huge multi-colored bird swooping and soaring in the wind. Was it some kind of sea bird? Was it even real? No! It was a kite. A big, beautiful bird kite that twisted and dipped and “flew” in the sky above. My husband and I had gone to a small national park overlooking the beach to soak in the beauty of the ocean, the hills covered with wild flowers and the blue skies. The breezes were steady but calm. The views from the...

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Losing Integrity One Inch at a Time

  By Carmelene Melanie Siani Sometimes we sit across the table from someone to have a simple lunch and, without us expecting it, they become one of our most memorable teachers. Way back in the 1990’s I had the opportunity to meet such a person when he contacted me about making a donation to the hospital where I was employed. “PR” was a genial man, noticeably gracious and well-spoken who’d recently resigned from his high level position as a Department Secretary for the Federal Government. I liked him and was comfortable around him. In my role as Director of Development, I’d...

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